Our country has grown further and further away from God as each day passes. Since most children are no longer raised in the Church, they tend to believe what the media conveys is the norm. Consequently, many of today's parents and children don't grasp the seriousness of premarital sex. Little do they know that if they follow the teachings of the boob tube, they will be on a sleigh ride descent into hell.
Based upon research, almost all Americans have premarital sex, says a report that analyzes federal data. The study, which used statistics from four years of National Survey of Family Growth data, asked about 40,000 people (ages 15-44) about their sexual behavior. They traced the trends in premarital sex back to the 1950s. Of those interviewed in 2002, 95% reported they had had premarital sex; 93% said they did so by age 30. Among women born in the 1940s, nearly nine in 10 did. At the same time, people are waiting longer to marry - which may not be a good thing after all.
So, these statistics are sobering. But at the same time, if a Christian parent has taken an active part to let them know their purity is important, it is hard to determine how they will take that advise. Before you even realize it, your teenager can be involved in a relationship that goes too far. Once they have gone past the point of no return, it is difficult to reel them back in. God says that the struggle with sexual sin is a "war." Most teens, or adults in most cases, are not mature enough to deal with this war.
Only a handful of parents prepare their children for male - female relationships. They may have learned that God has made sex exclusively for marriage, but when the rubber meets the road, how will they act once confronted with sexual temptation? For instance, if your son meets a girl who says she's a Christian, will she act like a lady when she is momentarily alone with him? If your son knew he would go to hell if he commits fornication, would that be a deterrent? I believe that is the most important element left out of "the talk."
God hates fornication, and I don't think that most of our young people know this! The Greek word for "fornication" in 1 Cor.10:8 is "porneuo" and it is defined as consensual sexual intercourse between a man and woman who are not married to each other. Adultery is one type of fornication, as well as homosexual acts, incest, prostitution, remarriage after unbiblical divorce, and sexual acts with animals. The Lord Jesus Christ expanded the prohibition against adultery to include sexual lusting (Matt. 5:28). It is all sin in God's eyes, and moreover those who fornicate and do not repent, can not go to heaven.
"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God." 1 Cor. 6:9-10
So many problems in marriages today stem from the fact that the couple were not virgins when they married. Young people are bringing wounded emotions and diseased bodies into their marriages, because of prior promiscuous relationships. It is not sex which God condemns, but it's misuse outside the marriage bond. Our job is to convey to them the depth of the seriousness of this first step outside of the covenant of marriage, without glossing over the gory details.